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When the shadow moves – Navigating the Shifting Energies

When the shadow moves – Navigating the Shifting Energies: Finding Stability in Turbulent Times

We’re living through a period of immense profound transformation. The energies surrounding us are shifting in ways that feel both dramatic and disorienting, and if you’ve been feeling tested lately, you’re not alone. These are challenging times that seem to demand something from us that we’re not always sure we can give.

The Confusion of Uncertain Times

One of the most difficult aspects of periods like these is the uncertainty they bring. It’s hard to know what to do. It’s hard to know how to be. We will keep changing through all of this. The ground beneath our feet feels less stable, and the compass we’ve always relied on to guide our decisions seems to spin without settling on true north.

You might find yourself asking questions you never thought you’d need to ask: How should I respond to this situation? What’s the right way forward? Who am I supposed to be right now?

These questions aren’t signs of weakness—they’re natural responses to genuine upheaval.

When the Inner World Surfaces

Perhaps one of the most surprising aspects of these testing times is how they can bring out parts of ourselves we didn’t know existed, or that we’ve kept carefully tucked away. If you’ve always been a quiet creature—someone who keeps to themselves, who processes internally, who prefers peace to confrontation—you might be shocked to find your inner world suddenly demanding to be expressed.

Emotions you’ve never felt with such intensity might be rising to the surface. Thoughts you’ve never voiced might be pressing against your lips. Reactions that feel foreign to your nature might be emerging without warning.

This isn’t a failure of character. It’s simply what happens when powerful energies move through our lives. They stir up everything—the settled and the unsettled, the known and the unknown, the comfortable and the uncomfortable.

The Anchor of Stability

So what do we do when everything feels like it’s in flux? How do we navigate when the map keeps changing?

The answer, perhaps surprisingly, is to stay stable. To find your center and hold it, even when everything around you is swirling.

Stability doesn’t mean rigidity. It doesn’t mean refusing to grow or change. It means finding that core within yourself that remains steady regardless of external circumstances. It means being the eye of the storm rather than getting caught up in the winds.

When you feel yourself being pulled in multiple directions, when the energies feel overwhelming, when you don’t know what to do—return to stability. Ground yourself. Breathe. Remember who you are at your core.

Keep It Simple

In times of complexity and confusion, simplicity becomes a radical act.

We often make things harder than they need to be, especially when we’re stressed or uncertain. We overthink. We overcomplicate. We add layers of worry and analysis that only serve to cloud our vision further.

Instead, keep it simple.

What’s the most straightforward path forward? What’s the most basic, fundamental thing you need to do right now? What would this situation look like if you stripped away all the unnecessary complexity?

Simple doesn’t mean simplistic. It means clear. It means essential. It means focusing on what truly matters and letting go of what doesn’t.

Keep Calm

Easier said than done, right? When the energies are intense and everything feels like it’s testing you, calmness can seem like an impossible goal.

But calmness isn’t about never feeling stressed or worried. It’s about not letting those feelings control you. It’s about maintaining your equilibrium even when you’re experiencing difficult emotions.

Keeping calm means:

  • Taking deep breaths when you feel overwhelmed
  • Pausing before reacting
  • Choosing your responses rather than being driven by impulse
  • Recognizing that this moment, however challenging, will pass
  • Trusting that you have the inner resources to handle what comes

Calmness is a practice, not a permanent state. You’ll lose it and find it again, lose it and find it again. That’s normal. What matters is that you keep returning to it.

Do Kind Things and Be Kind

Here’s where we find perhaps the most powerful guidance for navigating these shifting energies: kindness.

When you don’t know what to do, do something kind.

When you’re not sure how to be, be kind.

Kindness is never the wrong choice. It’s never wasted. It’s never inappropriate.

Do kind things—for others, yes, but also for yourself. Small acts of kindness ripple outward in ways we can’t always see or measure. They change the energy around us. They shift the atmosphere. They create pockets of light in dark times.

Be kind in your thoughts. Be kind in your words. Be kind in your actions. Be kind in your judgments of yourself and others.

This doesn’t mean being a doormat or allowing yourself to be mistreated. Kindness includes healthy boundaries and self-respect. But it means approaching life with a fundamental orientation toward compassion rather than harshness, toward understanding rather than judgment, toward connection rather than separation.

Moving Forward

These testing times won’t last forever, though it might feel like they will. The energies will shift again, as they always do. What matters is how we move through this period—what we learn, how we grow, and who we become in the process.

Stay stable. Keep it simple. Keep calm. Do kind things and be kind.

These aren’t just platitudes or empty advice. They’re practical tools for navigating uncertainty. They’re anchors in the storm. They’re ways of being that serve us regardless of what’s happening around us.

You don’t have to have all the answers. You don’t have to know exactly what to do or how to be. You just have to keep coming back to these fundamentals, again and again, as many times as it takes.

The quiet creature you’ve always been is still there. The inner world that’s emerging doesn’t negate that—it’s simply adding new dimensions to who you are. You’re not losing yourself in these changing energies; you’re discovering more of yourself.

And through it all, remember: stability, simplicity, calmness, and kindness. These are your guideposts. These are your way through.

@Dr.YazHeadley

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Choices

Mary Page Marlowe and Fragments of our lives.

When Theater Holds Up a Mirror: Mary Page Marlowe

Last night I witnessed something extraordinary—one of those rare theatrical experiences that stays with you long after the curtain falls. Mary Page Marlowe isn’t just a play you watch; it’s a play that watches you back, holding up a mirror to your own life with unflinching honesty.

A Life in Fragments

This isn’t your typical linear narrative, and that’s precisely what makes it so powerful. Instead of following Mary Page’s story from beginning to end, we’re given fragments of one woman’s life, presented deliberately out of sequence. We jump from childhood to middle age, from her twenties to her sixties, watching moments both mundane and monumental unfold in an order that mimics how memory actually works—non-linear, associative, emotionally driven.

These fragments weave together to create a breathtaking mosaic of human existence. What emerges is something achingly real, profoundly human. You can’t help but see yourself reflected in Mary Page’s choices, her mistakes, her moments of unexpected joy and crushing regret.

The Performance

Susan Sarandon was absolutely magnetic in this role. Watching her embody these different ages and stages of Mary’s life—the vulnerability of youth, the strength of middle age, the accumulated weight of decades of decisions—was a masterclass in acting. She brought such depth and nuance to every scene, making you feel the full spectrum of what it means to be a woman navigating the complexity of identity, relationships, motherhood, career, and self.

The seamless transitions between time periods, the subtle shifts in posture and voice that signaled a different decade of life—it was mesmerizing.

The Weight of the Roads Not Taken

At its core, this play explores something universal: regret. Mary Page looks back on her life with the kind of painful clarity that only hindsight brings. The roads not taken. The words left unsaid. The versions of herself she never became.

But here’s what struck me most, and what psychological research actually confirms: we don’t tend to regret the things we did do—even our mistakes, our wild choices, our spectacular failures. Those become stories, lessons, the texture of a life fully lived.

No, what haunts us are the things we didn’t do. The risks we didn’t take. The dreams we quietly abandoned. The person we were too afraid to become.

Why This Play Matters

Mary Page Marlowe captures that truth so beautifully. It’s about a woman’s many lives—the ones she lived and the ones she didn’t. It’s about the courage it takes to choose, knowing that every choice closes a door even as it opens another. It’s about reconciling who we are with who we thought we’d be.

In a culture that constantly tells us to optimize, to have it all, to become our “best selves,” this play offers something more honest: the acknowledgment that life is messy, that we’re all works in progress, that there is no perfect version of ourselves waiting to be unlocked. There’s only the life we’re living, with all its compromises and contradictions.

Final Thoughts

If you get the chance to see this production, go. It’s brilliant, moving, and will have you thinking about your own life long after you leave the theater. You’ll walk out into the night air feeling both heavy with reflection and somehow lighter—grateful for the choices you’ve made, more aware of the ones still ahead of you.

So I’ll leave you with the questions the play left me with: What are the things you’re glad you did, even if they didn’t turn out as planned? And what are you still afraid to try? 🎭✨

@Dr.Yaz Headley

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Relationships

The Shadow Side in Relationships

When two people fall in love, it’s easy to see only the light—the joy, excitement, and connection that make a relationship feel magical. But beneath every partnership lies a hidden dimension: the shadow side. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing; in fact, it can be the very terrain where real growth and intimacy are forged. Still, when ignored, the shadow can quietly erode the bond between partners.

What is the shadow side? The “shadow” in a relationship refers to the unconscious patterns, wounds, and unspoken fears that each partner brings into the dynamic. These often stem from past experiences—family upbringing, old relationships, or unresolved inner conflicts. In a couple, these shadows show up as jealousy, control, resentment, insecurity, or the urge to withdraw when things get hard.

Why does it matter? Every relationship eventually encounters friction. The shadow side is usually what’s being triggered in those moments. For example, a partner’s need for space might awaken the other’s fear of abandonment. A casual remark might stir old insecurities about not being “enough.” Without awareness, these shadows can spiral into blame, criticism, or distance. Facing the shadow together Instead of seeing the shadow as a threat, couples can view it as an invitation. Conflict and tension highlight areas where healing is possible—both individually and together.

By naming the patterns, owning personal triggers, and creating space for honest dialogue, couples can transform shadow material into deeper trust.

Practical steps for working with the shadow side: • Self-awareness first: Notice your own recurring triggers before pointing the finger. • Communicate vulnerably: Share fears and needs without accusation. • Create safety: Both partners need to know it’s okay to be imperfect and still be loved. • Seek growth, not perfection: A strong relationship isn’t free of shadow—it’s one where the shadow is acknowledged and integrated.

In the end, love isn’t about avoiding the dark corners of ourselves or each other. It’s about stepping into them with courage, compassion, and curiosity. When couples are willing to face the shadow side together, they often discover that those very challenges become the soil for deeper intimacy and lasting connection.

@DrYazHeadley